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They had to happen on the same day.
Two years ago today was the day that my life changed forever when I had say goodbye to my beloved, Rufus Palmer. And true to The Pet Psychic’s words: “We never get over the loss of a pet. We just get used to living without them,” that’s what’s happened to me.
Unfortunately, this all happened on September 11th, which has become to Americans “The day everything changed.” For many, it’s a day of much grief and sorrow over loved ones who died. That’s where I start feeling weird. I actually say this to almost no one, because I feel trivialized when I do. To me, this day sucks because I lost the one being most dear to me that I’ve ever had-he just wasn’t a human. And I feel that for some reason, the fact that he wasn’t human makes my grief not as worthy or justified as those who lost human people in 2001. As in ‘it was ONLY a dog…’ If people only knew…
There’s a growing number of people these days who are taking a look at the world around them and deciding that they don’t want to be a part of repopulating it. There are some who are averse to children; there are some who simply value the time they have to themselves just too much to sacrifice it to raising a young version of themselves. Perhaps there are even those, and I’m probably one of them, who are trying to skip karma by not having children, knowing what hellions they themselves were while growing up. Whatever the reason, the American Dream has expanded to include those for whom the 2.4 kids just ain’t gonna happen.
That doesn’t say there’s no parental instinct there. For many, it just comes in a different form. Many articles have been written about the new ‘trend’ some people are moving to, and that is to essentially act as thought their pets were their children. And it’s true. We even refer to them as ‘our children,’ and in a lot of ways, we mean every word of that.
I’m really sorry for everyone who was affected by 9/11/01. I remember seeing it on CNN; the first airplane had hit, and the second was about to. It was one of the most surreal things I’ve ever seen. The only thought in my head was ‘our world is never going to be the same.’ And it hasn’t. But for me, it’s a hard day because I had to say goodbye forever to the one being who gave meaning to my life when I found none. And believe me, it hurts just as much.
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